Am I Doing Christmas Right?
Yesterday was Christmas. All the madness, craziness, and hair-pulling moments in the last 25 days led up to one beautiful, calm, chill, no-frills day for our family, that included staying in our pajamas all day and ordering Chinese take-out. There were actual moments of quiet in our house yesterday. Quiet! I can’t remember the last time that happened.
It’s always crazy (and terrifying) to me how kids tend to pick up on our mood and often mimic how we are feeling. So when we finally let ourselves crash and relax, they were able to also.
As I think back on the Christmas season this year, I feel more convicted than in years past and have wondered so many times....are we doing this right? How in the world do we incorporate the real reason for celebrating Christmas, the importance of serving others, AND the magic of being a kid who might not believe in Santa much longer…..ALL into 25 days?
That’s a LOT to wrap up into one season and I can’t help but wonder if we are doing it all wrong. Are we focusing too much on the Elf, the pretty lights, decorated cookies, and wrapped presents? Does she understand that the reason we serve others is because of the life that Jesus lived while He was here on Earth? Also, how in the world do we celebrate Jesus AND Santa? I LOVE the fun and the joy that the idea of Santa brings, but how do I teach Amelia that Jesus brings even more joy than she could ever imagine? The reality is that Santa is a huge part of our December each year…but Jesus is a part of our lives all year long. I see that, but does she?
It’s been one day and I’m already thinking about how we can do things differently next year. How can we squeeze more into our schedule? Or should we do less? How can we serve more together as a family? How can we love others better? Should we spend less? The answer is probably yes to all of those!
We’ve all heard the phrase “more is caught than taught”….those words hit me harder than usual this year. If I’m expecting my kids to catch on to what it means to serve others, I better be doing it too! What was caught in my house this December? I know for certain they caught me: lose my patience, stress about running late everywhere we go, become frustrated when the lines were long at stores, and other things I’m sure I wouldn’t be proud of. But I hope they also caught how we served others with our time and our money, how we celebrated Jesus’ birthday, and how we were intentional about spending more time together as a family.
So, am I doing it wrong? What I think I AM doing wrong is putting unrealistic expectations not only on myself but on my kids for it all to just click - for them to be excited about focusing on others while at the same time being excited about Santa and gifts. That’s so confusing!
It’s December 26th, so the shininess of Christmas may be gone, but HE is still the same. Instead of setting goals of serving and loving more in just December, and feeling guilty for not finding more balance, we will find a rhythm in 2019 that works for our family to serve year round. To love more every day and to focus on others in everything we do. I can’t wait to come up with some family goals and dreams for this. For those millions of moms who have gone before us....any words of wisdom here?
For now, it’s on to round 3 of opening Christmas presents. 😉